Mail Girls
If you are the proud owner of one of the above offers, and you have been perplexed as to your inbox free after dozens of similarly heartfelt e-bruising, you may want to change your approach. For, as a woman, I see this one-liner in my inbox and I translate thus:Now you make the benefit of the doubt, I realize you can just maximize your efficiency through short messages that convey your interest, without belaboring it. I appreciate your incisive savvy and respect your valuable time as a fellow online dater.
“Hey, what are you doing tonight?”
“What’s up, beautiful? Every weekend plans?”
“Hey, they want to chat?”
“I’m bored, and I hope you’re desperate.”
I congratulate you concise expertise in circumventing the circumlocutionary correspondence, feel that online dating like a full-time career can make. Nevertheless, I received your message and I look just like this:
“I’m bored, and I hope you’re desperate.”
For me, this one-liner of the online equivalent of a pick-up line (a pick-up online, if you will), and it is not well received over the Internet as a personal space. Again, I’m not your intention, but the perception of the receiver, which rarely speaks cheap. And honestly, if you luck and the receiver responds positively to your one-liner, indicating despair, this is really the person on whom you focus on your interests? Despair is not usually find a quality in any top ten lists (“I’m looking for someone intelligent, funny, attractive, oh, and desperate. Definitely desperate.” I bet you’ve never seen that in your online dating profile-surfing.)
So please, give some clues in your message, but short enough to read the profile of the person and that you would enjoy getting to know better. At the very least, follow your one-liner with a different line to show that they read and write are what at least on my Top Ten list of desired qualities in a potential partner. You get many more online dates in this way.